There's a photo I look at every day that inspires me to keep growing, loving, and coaching.
It's a picture of my daughter and me. It reminds me of what pulls me forward...
...a desire for my daughter to choose her own path without apology... to recognize how capable, strong & beautiful she is... to trust her inner knowing, and follow her bliss.
I have the same desire for every girl & woman on earth.
What holds us back?
All sorts of untruths... unworthiness, guilt, limited time, the idea that motherhood is sacrifice, a distrust of ourselves, body shame, lack of money... I'm sure you could add to this list.
Why do so many of us hold these untruths as core (often subconscious) beliefs?
These beliefs were once wisely chosen. There was a time when they kept us safe by allowing us to belong, or to receive love. For example... when I was a little girl, I learned that making noise and standing out was unsafe. It got me into trouble with the adults I counted on for survival. So, I learned to avoid expressing myself.
It's been a long journey to be here sharing openly with you, trusting that expressing myself is not only safe but a contribution.
This is why I love coaching so much. As a coach, I help my clients...
- Reveal untruths for what they are
- Expand the menu of life experience options (no more being stuck!)
- Do so in a meaningful, lasting way so that it becomes who you are, not who you are trying to be
- Which ripples out to your family, to your friends, and to your community, giving them permission to be who they are
This is why I continue to expand my skills, and deepen my work with clients.
And... very importantly, this is also why I continue to receive coaching... I cannot help to free my clients from limiting beliefs if I am stuck in them myself. In order to release them, I need a powerful mirror, and a skilled guide... not to tell me what to do, but to help me navigate for myself.
The truth is, it is impossible to expand horizons with a myopic view of oneself. We Mamas have to begin with ourselves, and light the way for our daughters. And those without daughters can light the way for girls and women around the world.
I would love to hear what untruths you sense you are still holding, and what you'd like to experience instead. Please share in the comments below. You never know who you may be lighting the way for!
PS: If you'd like to join a group of Mamas ready to shed untruths together, get on this list to be the first to get an invitation to an upcoming online experience here.